What is an Addiction?

An addiction is a repetitive or compulsive behaviour that people use to regulate and manage their emotions. These can be emotions we are aware of or they can be subconscious. Addictions can be anything from drugs, gambling and alcohol to shopping, the internet and gaming amongst others. Most addictions have a detrimental effect in terms of physical, mental and financial health.

The addiction calms, soothes and distracts us from our internal world and can often be a symptom of childhood dysfunction. They often develop as coping mechanisms.

How do Addictions Work?

Addictions often serve to regulate the nervous system in some people who have experienced trauma. Their nervous systems have been affected by and adapted to the long-term trauma and they may have developed Complex PTSD. This means they have what is known as a narrow window of tolerance. This is the mental space in which a person can function without things becoming overwhelming for them. If someone has a narrow window then they will easily become overwhelmed by events and this can cause them to become either hyperaroused (this is the fight or flight response and results in hypervigilance or anxiousness amongst other effects) or hypoaroused (this is the freeze or submit response and results in numbness or depression amongst other effects).

The brain works together with the nervous system to run an elaborate system of defence mechanisms which are triggered by events in the environment to alert the person to possible danger. Much of the time this can take place without the person having much conscious awareness. 

An addiction can help a person to manage their nervous system by creating a sense of calm or arousal with uppers (such as cocaine and methamphetamine) and downers (such as alcohol and marijuana) according to the needs of the person at the time. 

Addictions are used to manage the after effects of trauma and also help the individual to deal with their emotional pain as they work as an anaesthetic/distraction.

When a behaviour is detrimental to us in terms of our health, finances or relationships it is beneficial for us to explore the roots of the behaviour and come to understand it so that it can be resolved. 

Counselling can help us to do this.

Sarah Graham

Sarah Graham

I am a Counsellor, based in Bournemouth in the UK, with specialist knowledge of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I am trained in treating Complex Trauma. I work online and am insured to work in most places in the world.

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